Have you ever been working on a task and felt sure you were doing the right thing, but a niggling doubt kept whispering in your ear? And you chose to ignore it.
Like most conversations, if you feel uncertain, why over respond? You might think, I’ll just sit with it. I shouldn’t over react.
The thing about internal conversations between you and your niggles, is that they are urgent!
People often are taught to ignore their niggles as though they were imaginary. Maybe you were told you are over sensitive, to demanding, to logical, or to confident and you learned to ignore the messages of your valuable niggles.
Unfortunately, that was not a good lesson to learn. Your niggles matter.
It does sound funny, but niggles are those internal cues that something is wrong. In most cases, it is not life or death, but understanding and trusting the niggle that makes you stop and reconsider something you just did, is well worth considering.
And you know who loses out when you don’t act on your niggle?
EVERYONE! That’s right, you and everyone loses.
While teaching a company workshop, a woman mentioned a process that really bothered her at this company. (It was a big niggle!) She admitted the process didn’t make sense to her, but she carried it out because those were “the rules” and she liked the job, except for that.
Her boss was baffled that she thought this was a company policy, because it wasn’t! The boss explained the process and the conscientious woman was relieved! However, she had been working there for over a year and implementing a process that was a constant “niggle.”
If she had told her boss about her niggle, she would have spent that year without the anxiety and agitation that comes with not dealing with the “niggle.” She suffered, and those that fell under the enforcement of this mistaken policy also suffered.
The lesson is don’t ignore your niggle! You can own it and be brave enough to share it!
Part of the reason this came up in a workshop, was because the company invested in improving communication by focusing on people’s strengths as they apply to systems.
Most people don’t realize their own “niggle sensor” often picks up things that other people around you won’t notice. When you notice things that others don’t recognize, that can feel confusing. Ironically, your attention stems from your own unique ways of seeing things which correlate with your strengths and everyone is different!
Much like the woman described above no one else seemed to be bothered by the process. Others were implementing the same policy, but their “niggle alarm” was never activated! What was bothering her didn’t come out until our workshop, over a year later!
Do you know how to explain your “niggle experience” to others?
As you know, I am passionate about helping people communicate. Poor communication causes people and process problems. The result of ignoring niggles has a painful price that impacts people personally and effects how they feel and do their job.
If this example is giving you an “niggle” moment, we still have some openings at our upcoming workshop, Radical Reset: Rethinking Your Company Systems & Uncovering Your Employees Hidden Strengths. Register Here.
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